Sentimental Means “Settled”…and I Don’t Like That

July 31, 2018 blog 4

  My grandmother passed away last December. Though we lived most years on different continents, she was the most present grandmother during my childhood- especially before we moved to Africa. She was the one to pick me up from school when I was sick, she came to every performance (including backyard musical productions), and she… Read more

Narrating Your Child’s Feelings

April 26, 2018 blog 0

  I have found that my two year-old does better in unfamiliar situations when I narrate for her. When we are on our way to whatever activity it is, I explain, to the best of my ability, what she can expect and what I expect of her. When talking with TCK counselor, Josh Sandoz, he… Read more

Please, Don’t Try to “Keep Your Children American” (Response to an Expat Podcast)

November 29, 2017 blog 0

  I was listening to an expat podcast the other day about raising children overseas. The host was answering questions that had been sent in to her by parents living abroad. A mom wrote in and asked, “What can I do to make sure that my kids stay American while we’re living in Europe?” She went… Read more

The Challenge of Subconscious Expectations (Part 1: How is Life “Supposed to Go”?)

October 30, 2017 blog 0

  Most TCKs grow up and abruptly lose their lifestyle. This is one of the most significant “hidden losses” that TCKs eventually encounter. Third Culture Kids have spent their lives hopping on international flights, traveling to exotic destinations, and integrating with different cultures and people around the world. For most, the globally mobile lifestyle is no longer… Read more

I am the Ugly Duckling (Part 2: Avoiding Terminal Uniqueness)

October 18, 2017 blog 0

  Read part 1 here  Third Culture Kids often come to a place in life when they return to their passport country only to find that they don’t belong. They can’t seem to fit in with those who have only lived in the passport country and thus begin to feel like an “other.” It feels… Read more

The One Thing Every TCK Needs to Hear

October 4, 2017 blog 0

  I write frequently about practical things that parents can do to raise up healthy TCKs. While I believe that all of those are important, there is one thing that all TCKs need to hear clearly and constantly. One thing that has to be present in order for anything else to be effective. “You are… Read more

What is a Culture Buddy?

August 25, 2017 blog 0

  We recently completed the trial run of our new teen pre-field training program; preparing teenagers (and their parents!) for the transition to life in a new culture. One concept that this group tightly latched onto, was the idea of a Culture Buddy. When I first introduced this topic to the group of teens, I… Read more

My Deepest TCK Fear

June 1, 2017 blog 6

  I first heard the term Third Culture Kid or “TCK” in high school, and simultaneously found out that I was one. While many reject being labeled, I personally found much solace in finally feeling like something explained the rootlessness and lack of belonging that I felt. I have always worn the TCK label proudly… Read more

Nurturing the Identity of Your TCK

March 3, 2017 blog 0

“Who are YOU?” The question was asked during a mom’s group I attended last week. The speaker went on, “Not, “what roles do you play?” Not, “who do people say you are?” But, who are YOU? If all those roles were stripped away, who would YOU be?” The question sank in and my mind started… Read more

Supporting the Adapting Child: TCKs and Adapting Series (Part 3)

December 15, 2016 blog 0

If you have read Parts 1 & 2 of this series, you are aware that most TCKs are more comfortable in the adapting and settling process than in the settled life. Settling is even more difficult for the TCK who has little support during their time overseas from those he/she left behind.  So, how can… Read more