Are We Really Signing Up for This?

September 27, 2018 blog 2

  My dear friend and her husband have recently become global workers and are heading overseas next year with their 18 month-old boy in tow. This past summer they attended a training where they spent two weeks with a great group of people from their organization, which included families with other little kids around the age… Read more

Are You Meeting Your TCK’s Emotional Needs?

August 10, 2018 blog 0

  Babies communicate their needs with their first cry and continue to do so in different ways as they grow and develop more complex methods of communicating. When these needs are met by loving parents, children feel safe, secure, and are likely to thrive developmentally. When these needs aren’t met, a breeding ground is created… Read more

Put on Your Own Oxygen Mask First

April 12, 2018 blog 0

  Everyone who’s traveled knows the spiel. “In the event of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally. Although the bag… Read more

Bringing Your TCK’s “Hidden Losses” Out of Hiding

September 20, 2017 blog 0

  The term “hidden losses” is one that I have seen circulate abundantly and frequently in the Third Culture Kid world. The concept is that much of the TCK’s grief stems from losses that are neither obvious nor acknowledged. These hidden losses often remain buried in the underground parts of the TCK, creating a toxic soil… Read more

The Balancing Act of Dealing with Anger and Grief

August 7, 2017 blog 0

  We are wrapping up our first teen pre-field training program after a fantastic two weeks of practicing culture and language-learning skills. At the end of last week, we had an intense and wonderful lesson, full of deep conversation, about leaving and grieving. One topic that came up was the difference between diffusing anger and processing grief.… Read more

It’s Not “Just Stuff”

July 25, 2017 blog 0

  The packing process begins as you plan to uproot and move to a new country. This is often the first time that the idea of leaving  “home” and moving to a new country becomes a tangible reality for children. As parents, you have been planning for months and have likely had many “reality checks,” but your… Read more

Using Art and Play to Help Your TCKs Express Themselves

June 28, 2017 blog 0

  The TCK life can be an absolutely wonderful and positive experience and most TCKs would not trade their TCK upbringing; however, it is also not an easy life. I write often about the issues that many TCKs deal with such as grief, identity confusion, anxiety, and rootlessness. In my time working with young TCKs, I’ve noticed that… Read more

The “Get Out My Angry Cards”- A Parenting Tool

June 15, 2017 blog 0

  Anger is almost always an overflow of different underlying emotions, and this is particularly true for children as they do not yet know how to compartmentalize emotions and deal with them accordingly. Instead, the child experiencing grief, helplessness, insecurity, hurt, or a host of other negative emotions, will subconsciously allow that emotion to bubble up and pour… Read more

Practical Tips for Helping Your Child Process the Grief of Moving Overseas (Part 2): The Post-Grieving Child

April 12, 2017 blog 0

“Some people grieve in advance of a loss-they see it coming and feel sad. They look around and realise, “I will never do this again.” Others grieve after the change occurs. It is at this point the post-griever realises, “I will never do this again”. –Tanya Crossman, Misunderstood (2016) The post-grieving child will experience the… Read more

Practical Tips for Helping Your Child Process the Grief of Moving Overseas (Part 1): The Pre-Grieving Child

March 31, 2017 blog 0

“Some people grieve in advance of a loss-they see it coming and feel sad. They look around and realise, “I will never do this again.” Others grieve after the change occurs. It is at this point the post-griever realises, “I will never do this again”. –Tanya Crossman, Misunderstood (2016) Some children are pre-grievers, some are… Read more