Caution and Hope for Boarding School Students
Caution and Hope for Boarding School Students
One of the demographics we used to sort the results from our 2021 survey of Adverse Childhood Experiences among TCKs was core educational experience. We asked respondents to list all types of schooling they received, as many TCKs move between schools - and school types - during childhood and adolescence. We also asked them to choose one category which represented the core experience they identified with; 12% identified boarding school as their core experience of education.



Mobility
Missionary kids overall had similar mobility patterns to the whole TCK sample. A little higher in some areas, but not much different. For this reason, as we consider mobility we will compare the mobility patterns of boarding school students to the MK group only, as this is a more apt comparison.
Boarding school students had higher incidence of extreme mobility in all three metrics we looked at: countries lived in, location moves, and house moves. As we will discuss later, a higher incidence of high mobility is a concerning pattern.
Boarding school students were a bit more likely to live in multiple countries than other TCKs, with 29% living in four or more countries, compared to 23% of TCKs overall.



Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) have been researched for decades, establishing links between high ACE scores and negative health outcomes in adulthood. The number we pay most attention to is the percentage of a group with 4 or more Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). In the largest study on ACEs, 12.5% of Americans had a score of 4+. In our study, 21% of TCKs generally, and 17% of boarding school students specifically, had an ACE score of 4+.


PCEs And Preventive Care
We titled our white paper “Caution and Hope” because although it can be hard to face the reality that so many students in our communities are experiencing extreme mobility, unresolved grief, and Adverse Childhood Experiences, there are proven practical ways to support them.
There is also so much preventive care we can do to help children process the experiences of grief and loss that go along with transition and mobility, and living in communities where their friends also move away. A key finding of “Caution and Hope” was that when extreme mobility is present, the rate of high-risk ACE scores rose from 1 in 5 TCKs to 1 in 3.

A child who goes through many Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can still thrive in adulthood if their childhood is also filled with Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs). There are seven types of PCEs. Three of the seven are based in the home; four of the seven are based in experiences of community outside the home.
Boarding school students experience regular disruptions between their parental/home environment and their school/peer group environment, complicating the provision of these PCEs. Consciously and deliberately considering how to educate and train both staff and parents in the importance of PCEs, and creating systems that support provision of PCEs, will improve long term outcomes for boarding school students.
Caution and Hope:
The Prevalence of Adverse Childhood Experiences in Globally Mobile Third Culture Kids
TCK Training is here to help. We have curricula, workshops (in-person and virtual), training (live and asynchronous), community groups, memberships, and everything else you need to support staff, students, parents, and your wider community.
Check out this list of Related Blog Posts, or click through the tabs to find recommended resources according to whether you're a caregiver or parent of Third Culture Kids, or you're an Adult Third Culture Kids yourself!
For Caregivers of Boarding School TCKs
Caregivers, as you read these statistics you may be feeling both motivation that there are needs you want to fill... and overwhelm not knowing how or where to start. You are not alone.
We've personally experienced how nerve wracking it can be to have the big and important role of caring for boarding school kids ahead of you, but not feel equipped for it. Which is why we do what we do, we want you to experience the relief and confidence of being equipped and supported!
Get equipped with certifications and trainings
- Pathways Certification (for those in leadership and program development)
- Groundwork Certification (for those working on the ground with MK families
- Unstacking Certification
Other resources
- FREE Safe Space Responses (miniseries)
- Raising Thriving Kids Abroad (workshop)
- Risk Prevention for Highly-Mobile Families (workshop)
- Living in Limbo (workshop) ...or get access to all three workshops plus 80+ more AND monthly group coaching with a Caregiver membership
For Parents of Boarding School TCKs
Reading these statistics can be difficult. We know how much you love your TCKs and you want what's best for them. So please know there is hope!
We do this research because "when we know better we can do better" (Tanya Crossman) and we believe that together we can raise up a generation of healthy TCKs.
We design our resources to equip parents and caregivers to support TCKs according to the needs found in our research! If you're not sure where to start, here's a few we would recommend:
- FREE Safe Space Responses (miniseries)
- Raising Thriving Kids Abroad (workshop)
- Risk Prevention for Highly-Mobile Families (workshop)
- Living in Limbo (workshop) ...or get access to both workshops plus 50+ more AND monthly group coaching with a Parent membership
For Adult Boarding School TCKs
If you resonated with a lot of these statistics, we want you to know that you're not alone, and we don't want you to carry this alone!
Here's some resources we would recommend specifically for you:
- Unstacking Your Grief Tower (book)
- Unstacking Your Grief Tower (self-guided course)
- Unstacking Sessions (personalized coaching)
Recorded Workshops
- Adult TCKs: Strengths & Challenges
- The Art of Settling Well
- Adult TCKs: How to Talk to Your Parents about Childhood Trauma
...or get access to all three plus 20+ more with an ATCK membership




