Part of TCK Training’s research on the well-being of Third Culture Kids (TCKs) looked at potential sources of trauma which might impact children. 275 international business TCKs took part in our 2021 survey. We learned some harsh realities through this research, including that 1 in 5 business TCKs experienced a home invasion, and 1 in 3 were impacted by a family medical crisis. Exposure to various types of potentially traumatic events were also associated with higher ACE scores. 

In this blog post, we go through data from our white paper, “Sources of Trauma in International Childhoods: Providing Individualized Support to Increase Positive Outcomes for Higher Risk Families”, that applies specifically to business TCKs. We hope to see this research used to support the well-being of international business TCKs globally – before, during, and after their time abroad.

‘Trauma’ describes an event that produces harm for an individual with lasting effects. ‘Big T’ trauma describes life-threatening situations including violence and disaster. ‘Little t’ trauma does not necessarily involve physical harm, but describes situations that create mental and emotional distress. All types of trauma negatively impact mental and physical health throughout life, increase risk-taking behaviors and suicidal ideation, and harm relationships. Traumatic childhood experiences that go unrecognized and unprocessed can cause these problems later in life. 

In this blog post, we discuss three categories of potentially traumatic events. These are events likely to cause either a ‘Big T’ or ‘little t’ trauma impact on the individual. In the “Sources of Trauma” white paper we discuss a research framework behind why such events can be traumatic, and how they can impact young people long term. 

1. Small-scale events: localized to the household or local community
2. Large-scale events: affect a wide area or large community as well as having personal impact 
3. Witnessed events: when an individual sees something without necessarily being personally involved  

Medical Events

Multiple studies have connected serious medical issues, including chronic illness, with negative impacts on the patient’s family. Importantly, these stressors can impact the family’s long term emotional health. We asked about three categories of medical trauma: (1) medical crisis; (2) prolonged illness; and (3) death.

Under half of business TCKs (44%) experienced a household medical event during their childhood. 40% of business TCKs with this experience had an increased ACE risk (compared to the average of 29%).

Medical crises affected 1 in 3 business TCK households (34%), and prolonged illness impacted 1 in 5 (20%). When business TCKs reported a medical crisis, they were more likely to have an ACE score of 4+ (40% compared to 29%). Medical trauma not only impacts the individual but the family as a whole. TCKs with these experiences were more likely to also report experiencing emotional abuse, emotional neglect, and household adult mental illness.

A small number of business TCKs (6%) reported that a member of their household died while they were a child; 3% reported the death of a non-residential caregiver. Business TCKs who reported these experiences had an elevated risk of a high ACE score at 35% and 38%, respectively.

Violent Events

When violence is part of a family’s lived experience, it affects each family member. Our research illustrates how this experience increases the rates of ACEs like physical abuse, emotional abuse, emotional neglect, and mental illness of adults living in the home (such as parents).

Violence can occur in many forms, and exposure to violence at a young age is known to impact development. (More information on this research can be found in the Sources of Trauma white paper). The types of violence asked about included: 

• a household member suffering violent harm
• a home invasion/break-in (while the person was home, or while they were away)
• a violent incident occurring at their school while they were present
• a violent incident occurring at another place while they were presenta violent incident occurring in a place they regularly went to while they were not present.
  

More than 1 in 3 business TCKs (38%) surveyed reported experiencing one of these violent events in their childhood. The most common event was a home invasion, experienced by 1 in 5 business TCKs; 38% of those business TCKs had a high-risk ACE score. 1 in 10 business TCKs (12%) reported that a member of their household suffered violent harm.

The survey asked TCKs if they had been present during a violent incident (i.e. armed robbery) at their school or somewhere else in their community, or if such an event happened at a place they regularly went while they were not there. Business TCKs were more likely to report a violent incident occurring in their absence (11%) than when they were present (7%).

Overall Impact

‘Small-scale’ events that affect TCKs directly in their homes and communities are not small in impact. They have an effect on ACE scores, and create conditions of stress for TCKs and their families. This emphasizes that trauma occurring at any scale can have a significant impact on well-being.

In addition to the small-scale events already mentioned, over 1 in 4 business TCKs (28%) reported additional experiences of intense grief or fear. Those business TCKs had an elevated ACE risk (42% compared to 29%). 68% of business TCKs experienced at least one of these potential sources of trauma. 

On the other hand, when business TCKs reported that they had none of these potentially traumatic experiences, only 14% had a high-risk ACE score. This is half the ACE risk seen in business TCKs overall (14% vs 29%), and only slightly higher than the ACE risk seen in the largest ever survey of ACEs (12.5% in the CDC-Kaiser study of 17,000 Americans).

Political Disruption

One third of business TCKs (33%) experienced a type of political disruption during their time abroad. While TCKs may consider political violence/corruption minor and thus hardly worth mentioning due to their high frequency (and therefore normalization), this environment contributes to a child’s perception of safety and who can be trusted in the world around them. Overall, there was only a small increase in high-risk ACE scores in this group (31% vs 29%).

Overall Impact

Half of business TCKs (51%) had experienced some type of large-scale event with the potential for trauma. Business TCKs that did not experience any of these large-scale events had slightly lower ACE scores (26% compared to 29%).

Extreme Poverty

Half of business TCKs (51%) reported they had witnessed extreme poverty at least once, and more than 1 in 4 said they witnessed this regularly (29%).

While witnessing poverty was not correlated with increased ACE risk, it is still worth acknowledging. This is a form of 'moral injury', defined by Foreign Policy as "perpetrating, failing to prevent, bearing witness to, or learning about acts that transgress deeply held moral beliefs and expectations". Children who are being taught (often at a well funded international school, or in a very comfortable home) that all people are equal, and to treat others with respect and kindness, may struggle to integrate these messages with their lived reality of witnessing people living in extreme poverty.

Serious Traffic Accidents

On the surface, traffic accidents may not seem detrimental. Witnessing any serious traffic accident, however, is likely to cause an adrenal reaction as the body attempts to deal with a stressful situation. We have heard many stories from Adult TCKs who suffered mentally and emotionally from witnessing major injuries and even deaths due to traffic accidents as children. 1 in 3 business TCKs (31%) had witnessed at least one serious traffic accident, while 6% witnessed them regularly. 

Violence

Witnessed violence combines experiences of armed conflict, human death, animal death, and physical violence. More than 2 out of 5 business TCKs (43%) had witnessed a violent event, while over 1 in 10 (12%) witnessed these events regularly. 

1 in 10 business TCKs (11%) had witnessed armed conflict. Physical violence was the most commonly witnessed type of violence, however. 27% of business TCKs witnessed at least one incident, and 9% witnessed these incidents regularly. In our small sample, these business TCKs had extremely high ACE scores; 59% of those who witnessed physical violence at least once had a high-risk ACE score, along with 75% of those who witnessed physical violence regularly. 

More than 1 in 7 business TCKs (15%) reported witnessing a traumatic human death at least once; of these 39% had a high-risk ACE score.

We also asked about witnessing traumatic animal death, as we have worked with many TCK and Adult TCKs who had experienced this and needed to process it later down the line. Over 1 in 7 business TCKs (15%) had witnessed the traumatic death of an animal, with 3% witnessing this regularly. For business TCKs, these experiences were associated with an increased risk of 4+ ACEs at 46% and 38%, respectively.

18% of TCKs generally witnessed some type of violence regularly (including armed conflict, physical violence, traumatic human or animal death); only 33 business TCKs were part of this group. Of these 33, rates of child maltreatment were extremely high, with 70% reporting physical abuse at home, 79% reporting emotional abuse at home, 73% reporting emotional neglect, 21% reporting physical neglect, and 55% reporting sexual abuse before age 18. (Rates of child maltreatment rose similarly in all TCKs who regularly witnessed violence during childhood.)

This data can feel overwhelming. These numbers are sobering, and it is right and good to take time to reflect on them – and the people these numbers represent. So many children, teens, and families we know have been through these traumas. Some of them have received excellent support and are doing well. Some of them have not, and are not. We can and should grieve the occasions in which trauma was not well addressed. 

As we hold the weight of this, we ask the question: where do we go from here?

Potentially traumatic events threaten the mental health and stability of international families. When we recognize them as such, we can mobilize to acknowledge and debrief these events. These events cannot always be predicted; when changes in the environment threaten emotional/physical safety, especially through frequency of potentially traumatic events, the location’s suitability should be reassessed.

There are resources available to help those who were not helped effectively in the moment. Unstacking Sessions are a great resource to help Adult TCKs work through what happened in their childhoods and how this impacted their internal narratives. Unstacking Your Grief Tower is a short and inexpensive book that helps Adult TCKs work through this process on their own.

More than this, however, we want to see quality preventive care happen. 

Corporate Support is essential for international business families. This may be provided through the HR department, and/or specific family support workers. Budgeting for this support is essential to ensuring international business families thrive long term. Community organizations and informal staff networks can be a fantastic part of a family’s support network, but cannot on their own bear the burden of providing for all families’ emotional needs.

A great start for those working in family support is to learn more about TCKs and their needs. Support staff can also be trained to provide excellent care specific to the needs of global mobile families. This might include running a private training in Debrief Certification or Family Check-In Training, or getting certified in TCK care (either as a program leader through Pathways, or on-the-ground care in Groundwork).  

Quality pre-departure training for the international business family is essential. This service need not be offered in-house as there are options to out-source pre-departure training, debriefs, and other invaluable services. Parent Packages are a great way to support families by giving them access to resources that will equip them well. 

Debriefing is another incredibly powerful tool to help families work through the difficult parts of their journey in a way that also affirms the good things, while equipping parents to have ongoing conversations with their kids. We recommend that family debriefs occur annually, to catch things that aren’t noticed in the moment, with a full debrief every four years. A crisis debrief is a helpful tool when a particularly disruptive or traumatic event occurs. A great book for parents who want to incorporate emotional support into their TCK parenting is Raising Up A Generation of Healthy TCKs, or for a shorter and more debrief-centric reading, The Grief Tower.

Other good resources to assist parents include:

• The Practice of Processing
• Turning TCK Hardships into Resilience-Building Experiences
• The Art of Settling Well
  
• Adult TCKs: Talking to Your Parents about Childhood Trauma
• Healing Relationships with Your Adult TCKs
• Repairing Relationships with Your TCKs

Related blog posts:

• Mitigating Risk Factors for International Business Kids
• Caution and Hope for International Business Families